Many of us would agree that in a relationship, especially if it has developed into a marriage, faithfulness is the top priority as it comes hand in hand with ‘love’. Infidelity is one of the major causes of divorce and separation. When you tie the knot, you were supposed to love only that person for your whole life, that is why we recite in vows ’till death do us part’!
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However, it seems like those words don’t mean anything more than just a line said at the altar these days. While some cheaters experience the immediate effects right away, others get to escape it until their conscience could no longer bear it.
A married woman took to Quora to share parts of her story and to ask the public how should she go about this with her husband.
It is learned that this woman had multiple affairs many years ago even before their marriage. They both started dating while they were in college and even then she would have sex with other men.
The couple has been married for 15 years but she has had multiple sexual relationships with other men throughout their marriage.
What’s more appalling is that she already knew a few years back that their two teen daughters are not her husband’s biological daughters! But she kept it a secret from him so long and is now seeking advice from netizens.
Source: Elite Readers
She wrote on Quora,
“I am love married (sic) for 15 years now and living happily with my husband and two daughters 14 & 13 years old.
“He is not their real father and he is not aware of that.
“From my college days when I was dating him, I used to have casual sex with guys around. Please don’t ask me about counts.
“After marriage, I became a housewife and was less social. But this didn’t change me. I still get to meet guys when my husband was out which included his cousin, friends, laundry man, neighbors etc.
“So in short I did it with multiple guys. And I have no regrets, I still do it but less frequently.”
Source: Elite Readers
She further confessed:
“When my daughters were 5 & 6 I got their DNA tested and as expected came to know he isn’t their father.
“He is a good man though, but I feel if I tell him, he will leave me, and that will affect my daughters’ life financially.
“So what should I do?”
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Her post garnered mixed reactions from Quora users with some calling her ‘disgusting’ and telling her she should ‘live with shame’ because of what she did. Meanwhile, others offered a more practical advice that she should hire a lawyer before telling her husband.
Of course the man would be devastated upon hearing the news, his wife sleeping around with other men, on top of that, his two daughters whom he spent blood, sweat, tears, and money raising them is not even his flesh and blood!
What are your thoughts on this? Should she come clean with her husband or keep it a secret and bring it to her grave?
(Source: Elite Readers)