Beating a kid to teach them a lesson is a very common practice in most Asian families. It’s not the kind that will leave the children in bruises, rather it’s the kind where a gentle smack to the kids bottom or palms would be enough to scare them from making the same mistakes.
It is rather a tricky deal when it comes to disciplining our children as parents would normally just burst out in frustration then we would end up feeling guilty as we had gone too far with our actions as we try to prove our point to our children.
So here are 5 ways that could possibly help you to discipline your children without the need of getting physical with them;
1. Take a pause
As soon as you realise you can’t take any more of your child’s tantrum, go out for a moment…take a breather! Try to keep yourself in silent for a couple of minutes to gather back your rational thoughts and come up with a more positive strategy to counter the problem that has arisen.
If you need to write it down in a journal or diary, then feel free to do so…it might come in handy once you recognise the problem and it can be easily avoided the next time.
2. Give a reasonable punishment
Rather than being forceful, why don’t you try making them take a “time out” at a corner of the house? Or you can opt for a “threat” by telling them if they don’t start behaving well, they will not be getting any allowance or their favourite meals for a week.
Many times this method has been proven to work. So give it a try!
3. Get them to write an apology note
Yes, you know the drill mums and dads! Get your child to write over and over again an apology sentence till it makes them “phobia” to even make the same mistake in the future. It’s basically the same system that teachers have been using over the decades for naughty children.
Not only will you be able to discipline them, you would also indirectly train them to write better.
4. Clean and clear timelines
When your child seems to have been behaving a little wilder over the days, then you should give out a “timeline warrant” to your kid. This timeline warrant acts as a notice for your kids to ‘repair’ their behaviour or stop their tantrums within a given period of time – if they fail to do so, they would have to pay the consequences in any form that you have set for them; be it washing the dishes or cleaning up the trash and etc.
5. Give them a task to carry out
It doesn’t matter what kind of task you give your children, whether they like it or not, they would still have to do it as a punishment. This is a plus point for us parents as we get to cover more house chores, with our little rascals.
Not everything can be solved by force, so let’s try to minimise physical threatening, okay? We need to raise our children so that they will be more disciplined and confident…not making them feel insufficient and worthless.